The Month of Tishrei, with all of its Chagim is a time of opportunity for spiritual growth. Alternatively, it can be hard work with constant Davening, dancing, eating and cooking. How do we avoid the ‘Yom Tov burn out'?

Once in a while I take my children to an amusement park. There I always observe with interest the different expressions on people's faces. Many parents, although committed to providing a day of fun for their children, seem to be agitated and stressed waiting eagerly for the day to end. The kids on the other hand, enjoy every minute, trying to catch as many rides as possible. Oblivious to any stress, their day is filled with lots of fun and excitement.

The ride that appears to be the most popular is the roller coaster. On this ride the atmosphere is intense and the feelings change quickly and drastically. As the carriage creeps up slowly there is feeling of suspense and fear followed by loud screaming when it suddenly drops sharply. The rollercoaster then speeds in a straight line and comes to a halt with lots and smiles and laughter. Throughout the experience, one thing remains constant - exhilaration and sheer excitement.

For many parents the whole experience is a necessary chore. For the children every moment is another opportunity for more enjoyment.

The month of Tishrei is like an amusement park. Like the roller coaster, some moments are tense and full of suspense, like G-d's judgement on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Other days are filled with laughter and celebration like, Sukkos and Simchas Torah. There are so many opportunities to develop our Jewish identity. Every spiritual and soul-like experience is like another ride.

But it is we who choose how to participate. We can be like the child who gets involved and enjoys every moment, or the ‘spectator' parent who can't wait for it to be over. We can choose to be the child who won't miss a ride, grabbing every opportunity to join another shiur, pray with more devotion, and have a Lechaim with an extra dance. Or we can be the parent for whom it is another chore and a burden. It is up to us to choose.

Here are some strategies to help us become more like the participating child:

a) Set aside time to learn or to read about the significance of each Mitzvah and experience during this month, so that they have meaning.

b) If you have trouble with the Hebrew, read some of the Davening in English and become inspired by its beautiful words.

c) Make this month a family bonding experience. Have family discussions on the importance of the various days and Mitzvos. Build a Sukkah together or go with your children to choose a Lulav and Esrog.

d) Don't over- cater. Calm, peaceful meals with less food are a lot better than a stressed atmosphere with lots to eat.

We are all G-d's children. Lets us behave like children and enjoy every moment.

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